I never such sumissive before any travel to overseas country. But, why this time so nervous !!! Is it because it's the holy land in earth where moral policing is pretty active. My close acquitances and colleagues given a briefing how a culture shock I would undergo. But, untill I experience myself the city is alien to me. Behaviour & Attitude seen from the flight that takes off from Mumbai. Significant travellers are cattle-class, stinks to good heavens when you sit next to them. From the wear, you can trace they are ready to get slaughter on landing the alien country. Its the ignorance, or the trafficking or slavery that runs the racket to have such branding of Indians there. Anyway, the immigration took 90 minutes for 15 people in the queue, its the finger print that takes 10-15 mins for each person. Reason being the cattle-class were dirty fingers and the prints are not coming up. Arabi personnel blasting like the way they treat slaves.
Hotel was decent and rightly priced. Free Internet, but horrible speed, breakfast is not that great, but spread is continental and arabic.
Taxies are run by pakis, lankans & bangaladeshis. Heard B'desh taxis are notorious folks, Arabis doesn't understand and might land up anywhere with a unknown cost. Safe to talk with taxies in Hindi and if they don't understand don't board it. Food is not an issue, it's perfectly placed to taste indian buds.
Quite strange to see high rise walls without windows. Restrictions in mall entry for bachelors and restrictions to restaurant which has family section. Seems to be a difficult place for unmarried / bachelor person. As a business traveller didn't get into much problem, and safely exited post 4-5 days of stay.
Got some dates & butter chocos; tasted black tea, enjoyed reasonable food.
Now that I will keep visiting to these places, need to get myself adjusted to people, environment, challenges and wramath of welcome....
Monday, December 5, 2011
Sunday, August 14, 2011
Colonized world...
I remembered my last year Independence experience when I stepped out to visit Mumbai with a pressed fear of untoward incident. Today, on the eve of India's Independence I have taken another tour, but it's in Melbourne. A colonial society by Britan. India too colonized by Britan, and many others, but the footprints left behind are quite different.
Agri, Mining & Education considered to be the hub of roaring economy of Australia. Australia could be few countries in recent recession/inflamatory time, speaking of surplus by 2012 leaving behind the deficit owes of other countries who are struggling for their sovereignty status.
India amid of scams, england unrest under riots, US of A on debt ceiling, France under economic pressure of debt increase, spain & Italy dragging the Euro for their defaults. While the macro economic condition appears weak, India is celebrating 65 years of Independence. Are we really independent from colonized British, or we are still controlled by breaucracy, politics and insurgency. What India is looking at for 2011-12, Not to Sensex for sure, Financial market being joked by few instituations who pull/push money across geos. Are the capital market is the indicator of India Shining or Bharat Nirman.
Australia has 1 Lakh students from China, whopping number. I could see apts, hotels, public places information written in English and Manderine. Why not, 1 Lakh students bring money to Australia, in terms of education, stationary, stay, food; where 2.2 Cr is the population, you have less than 1% students from a single country China. Then you have Koreans, Japanese, Vietanamese, Thai, & Malaysians. Makes the Asian population quite signficant here. There is a nation debate going for Islam adoption drives from religious groups. All retail stores, have part-time asian students; what a economy riding high on Mining, fruits/vegetables & tourism (education). Country is seems blessing China & Malaysia well.
Back in India, 120 Cr population, not sure 2011 census figures were out or not. Our economy lies on us, as we consume so much that the economy would be self sufficient. But, why not we become. Should we continue to be a commonwealth of Australia and controlled by Victoria to achieve this, or getting Independence made us to struggle the way we are. Sometimes I ask whether colonized was good or bad, At-least we could have got the same infrastructure as other colonized countries got. But, then what could have happened to such diverse society, would they continue to torture, Won't they get now. Why there is a insurgency in Telengana, Bengal, Orissa, leaving aside the biggest headache of India (J&K), are the minority are not treated on par still. Then, why there is a controversey on Arakshan.
Agri, Mining & Education considered to be the hub of roaring economy of Australia. Australia could be few countries in recent recession/inflamatory time, speaking of surplus by 2012 leaving behind the deficit owes of other countries who are struggling for their sovereignty status.
India amid of scams, england unrest under riots, US of A on debt ceiling, France under economic pressure of debt increase, spain & Italy dragging the Euro for their defaults. While the macro economic condition appears weak, India is celebrating 65 years of Independence. Are we really independent from colonized British, or we are still controlled by breaucracy, politics and insurgency. What India is looking at for 2011-12, Not to Sensex for sure, Financial market being joked by few instituations who pull/push money across geos. Are the capital market is the indicator of India Shining or Bharat Nirman.
Australia has 1 Lakh students from China, whopping number. I could see apts, hotels, public places information written in English and Manderine. Why not, 1 Lakh students bring money to Australia, in terms of education, stationary, stay, food; where 2.2 Cr is the population, you have less than 1% students from a single country China. Then you have Koreans, Japanese, Vietanamese, Thai, & Malaysians. Makes the Asian population quite signficant here. There is a nation debate going for Islam adoption drives from religious groups. All retail stores, have part-time asian students; what a economy riding high on Mining, fruits/vegetables & tourism (education). Country is seems blessing China & Malaysia well.
Back in India, 120 Cr population, not sure 2011 census figures were out or not. Our economy lies on us, as we consume so much that the economy would be self sufficient. But, why not we become. Should we continue to be a commonwealth of Australia and controlled by Victoria to achieve this, or getting Independence made us to struggle the way we are. Sometimes I ask whether colonized was good or bad, At-least we could have got the same infrastructure as other colonized countries got. But, then what could have happened to such diverse society, would they continue to torture, Won't they get now. Why there is a insurgency in Telengana, Bengal, Orissa, leaving aside the biggest headache of India (J&K), are the minority are not treated on par still. Then, why there is a controversey on Arakshan.
Friday, May 27, 2011
At Four, Home Alone
It's hard to believe Osama killed, Mamata brought Poribortan in WB, No Karuna shown by TN for family raj, in India high profile corrupt politicians getting charge sheeted and jailed, India winning WC, Yeddy surviving repetitive unrest in Karnataka, Anna's anti-corruption Lokpal bill movement taken India for Gandhian wave... Significant changes in societal behaviour from next wave of 2G, CWG corruption news.
It's hard to believe that my SON as well acquired the trick of staying Home Alone. Is it coercive or manipulative. Is it something expected in a nucleus family ? Or it's a fall-out of urban race. All the while Kids are Home Alone due to mistakes, not knowing or trained to leave.
Yes, My son is trained to stay at home when parents are out for serious work or task to perform. e.g. Morning Aerobics classes of wife & my football play spoils the mood of Kid in getting morning sleep. While necessary is the mother of invention, we have devised a formula for a retrospective reference plane. Kid has been trained to understand that, when parents are not at home, do things in order:
1. Wash your face, Brush your teeth (toothbursh carrying paste already), Clean the tongue
2. Change the cloth, put up shoes and close the door (double check the door for getting locked)
3. Walk to community hall where Aerobics class is going on.
Strictly No-No:
1. Crying on wake-up not finding anyone at home
2. Getting out from home without washing face, cleansing mouth & changing wear
3. Not locking the door
To my surprise it made wonder and my Son is following it religiously with few mistakes of not washing his face or cleansing his mouth. I didn't see any resistant from kid, rather he accepted the change management without any resistance. Hope, I would have the kid to accept such policy changes in my life without unwarranted hiccups.
When I bring parallels to my work life, I am finding it difficult to new changes in responsibilities, Can't I accept the challenge as my 4 year son. It might not a very transactional, but not outright mission impossible task. Is the attitude plays a role, Is the ecosystem drives energy, Is aggression genetic, fear of failure is root of the cause, perform or perish is mantra that creates fear, being complacent is an issue, or just giving up is the motto. Why a strange and new environment makes you ill equipped. When you can make strategy for others, why it creates a challenge for you. Is it that, you don't get right support and still want to perform. No clue, but daily fire fighting continues. Being find yourself nucleus and remembering a famous comic strip, "neutron and proton were walking, where neutron said you lost the electron on the way, Proton quickly replied Is it +ve or -ve"
Positive energy flows when you look for a newer assignment with a sense of negation when think of end result. It's much worse when your forte is not at core and you are on loggerhead. Can't we dictate policies, frameworks, patterns for newer ecosystem. Is it something not possible, IBM does, McKinsey does in technical & managerial offerings. Why not a lesser known brand. Can my lesser known brand be left Home Alone, I can't ride the strong wave to become International. Is my positioning needs to be changed, what's the Value seen by my customers. They still see me a Vendor or an Advisor. Former is a child , latter is a parent. How do i keep my transactional map aligned to adult-adult relationship rather child-adult.
I need to move on from Home Alone to Carry Inclusive, giving time and space for everyone to grow and still command a premium of inclusivity
It's hard to believe that my SON as well acquired the trick of staying Home Alone. Is it coercive or manipulative. Is it something expected in a nucleus family ? Or it's a fall-out of urban race. All the while Kids are Home Alone due to mistakes, not knowing or trained to leave.
Yes, My son is trained to stay at home when parents are out for serious work or task to perform. e.g. Morning Aerobics classes of wife & my football play spoils the mood of Kid in getting morning sleep. While necessary is the mother of invention, we have devised a formula for a retrospective reference plane. Kid has been trained to understand that, when parents are not at home, do things in order:
1. Wash your face, Brush your teeth (toothbursh carrying paste already), Clean the tongue
2. Change the cloth, put up shoes and close the door (double check the door for getting locked)
3. Walk to community hall where Aerobics class is going on.
Strictly No-No:
1. Crying on wake-up not finding anyone at home
2. Getting out from home without washing face, cleansing mouth & changing wear
3. Not locking the door
To my surprise it made wonder and my Son is following it religiously with few mistakes of not washing his face or cleansing his mouth. I didn't see any resistant from kid, rather he accepted the change management without any resistance. Hope, I would have the kid to accept such policy changes in my life without unwarranted hiccups.
When I bring parallels to my work life, I am finding it difficult to new changes in responsibilities, Can't I accept the challenge as my 4 year son. It might not a very transactional, but not outright mission impossible task. Is the attitude plays a role, Is the ecosystem drives energy, Is aggression genetic, fear of failure is root of the cause, perform or perish is mantra that creates fear, being complacent is an issue, or just giving up is the motto. Why a strange and new environment makes you ill equipped. When you can make strategy for others, why it creates a challenge for you. Is it that, you don't get right support and still want to perform. No clue, but daily fire fighting continues. Being find yourself nucleus and remembering a famous comic strip, "neutron and proton were walking, where neutron said you lost the electron on the way, Proton quickly replied Is it +ve or -ve"
Positive energy flows when you look for a newer assignment with a sense of negation when think of end result. It's much worse when your forte is not at core and you are on loggerhead. Can't we dictate policies, frameworks, patterns for newer ecosystem. Is it something not possible, IBM does, McKinsey does in technical & managerial offerings. Why not a lesser known brand. Can my lesser known brand be left Home Alone, I can't ride the strong wave to become International. Is my positioning needs to be changed, what's the Value seen by my customers. They still see me a Vendor or an Advisor. Former is a child , latter is a parent. How do i keep my transactional map aligned to adult-adult relationship rather child-adult.
I need to move on from Home Alone to Carry Inclusive, giving time and space for everyone to grow and still command a premium of inclusivity
Sunday, February 20, 2011
Wife bina Life
Reality show "wife bina life" is on air and most of the households glued to watch what Mr of House is caring for their kids when Mrs of home out on vacation. Traditionally, it's like females at home will take care of all the needs/wants of internal matter and males of house will do the outside activity. While in 21st centuary females have gone ahead in professional career, things have not changed much in the mindset. Still, a social taboo if mother is not taking care of kid properly, evenif father is idling for some or other reason. It's understandble in rural and semi-urban to a larger extent, but in tier-1 and tier-2 cities, where things have changed drastically.
To a mere conicidence my wife out on a trip to my hometown and when this news flashed in the community, everybody relate my story with this realty show. Catch is, my wife had gone for 4-5 days and I don't want to bring trouble for my kid by accompanying with her. Due to frequent changes in climate and env, my kiddo is not coping and falling sick for months together. While thats the crux of this arrangement, most of my community friends astonished how I will take care of responsbilities of both MoM & DaD.. It's a single parent responsibility.
I am sure, while reading this it will give goosebumps to you. But that's true. I am taking care of my kid. Getting up morning, prepare breakfast for him, and pack his tiffin. Get my son up, brush him and feed him breakfast (it's a challenge for my kid as he is averse to food), put up his uniform, shoes, ready his backpack and drop him in the school bus stop. Rush for my routine readiness and grab a quick bite of breakfast and run to office. Switching from a MoM activity to professional, at 1 PM, rushing back to home so that can pick up my kiddo from school closing time. Get him from drop, bath him, apply moist (atopic skin allergies), sleeve up to do the cooking. Demand comes from kiddo, today he only want curd rice. Oops, rush to neighbourhood kirana store to buy curd, and by the time rice/dal and curry done. At 2:30 PM, sit for him to feed which lasts for an hr. At 3:30 PM, I have my meal ;=(
At 4 PM, I ask my son to go for play, and then I login to office at 4 PM, work till 6 PM. 2 hrs of office work is gap and need to fill the same later in the evening. 6 PM, snacks time, order comes frech fries, sweet corn, pop corn, and so many. Standing to those and obliging them gracefully, quickly readying the snacks. Again, another 30 odd mins for making him feed the same. Watch TV, painting or writing up / scribbling on his notes. At 8:30 PM, my kid wants paratha or roti. Prepare the same and sit for dinner at 9 PM. It again goes for an hr. At 10 PM, you are exhausted for the day, and try to make him sleep post brush. If he has a good playhrs in the evening, he will sleep within 30 mins, otherwise stand up to an 1hr. Quite frustrating at times, when you protect like this always. What to do, with single child concept, it's too much caring.
I finish my food and get ready for work at 11 PM, by 12 Midnight no concentration and close the work and go for sleep to get at 6 AM morning tomorrow to revist the same schedule with different menu items.
I can understand for females who takes care of primary responsibility of MOM and don't own any other responsibility. But, when you compare with working moms' without domestic help, it's a nightmare. I am sure, I can't do this activity for not max 1 week, my boss will put all his ire on me due to irregular in delivering work, re-scheduling meetings/appointments, travelling postponements. It's not possible. On the second thought, possibly in earlier days Moms used to have more than one child and that allowed them to engage within a home children circle, and get time to close up activities. But, with protected, nucleus family, not allowing too much physical activity to the kids, we are really spoiling. Wether you are with wife/ or bina wife. It doesn't matter, as long as you are not taking the right steps to get physical immunity to your child at this stage. That's what I am scared about and the episode surfaced due to this. i am scared of my kid's immunity and hence not allowed to travel to hometown and in-turn personally invite "Wife bina Life". Kaas I would have informed Star Plus to induct me, at-least I could have raised some mullah out of it....
To a mere conicidence my wife out on a trip to my hometown and when this news flashed in the community, everybody relate my story with this realty show. Catch is, my wife had gone for 4-5 days and I don't want to bring trouble for my kid by accompanying with her. Due to frequent changes in climate and env, my kiddo is not coping and falling sick for months together. While thats the crux of this arrangement, most of my community friends astonished how I will take care of responsbilities of both MoM & DaD.. It's a single parent responsibility.
I am sure, while reading this it will give goosebumps to you. But that's true. I am taking care of my kid. Getting up morning, prepare breakfast for him, and pack his tiffin. Get my son up, brush him and feed him breakfast (it's a challenge for my kid as he is averse to food), put up his uniform, shoes, ready his backpack and drop him in the school bus stop. Rush for my routine readiness and grab a quick bite of breakfast and run to office. Switching from a MoM activity to professional, at 1 PM, rushing back to home so that can pick up my kiddo from school closing time. Get him from drop, bath him, apply moist (atopic skin allergies), sleeve up to do the cooking. Demand comes from kiddo, today he only want curd rice. Oops, rush to neighbourhood kirana store to buy curd, and by the time rice/dal and curry done. At 2:30 PM, sit for him to feed which lasts for an hr. At 3:30 PM, I have my meal ;=(
At 4 PM, I ask my son to go for play, and then I login to office at 4 PM, work till 6 PM. 2 hrs of office work is gap and need to fill the same later in the evening. 6 PM, snacks time, order comes frech fries, sweet corn, pop corn, and so many. Standing to those and obliging them gracefully, quickly readying the snacks. Again, another 30 odd mins for making him feed the same. Watch TV, painting or writing up / scribbling on his notes. At 8:30 PM, my kid wants paratha or roti. Prepare the same and sit for dinner at 9 PM. It again goes for an hr. At 10 PM, you are exhausted for the day, and try to make him sleep post brush. If he has a good playhrs in the evening, he will sleep within 30 mins, otherwise stand up to an 1hr. Quite frustrating at times, when you protect like this always. What to do, with single child concept, it's too much caring.
I finish my food and get ready for work at 11 PM, by 12 Midnight no concentration and close the work and go for sleep to get at 6 AM morning tomorrow to revist the same schedule with different menu items.
I can understand for females who takes care of primary responsibility of MOM and don't own any other responsibility. But, when you compare with working moms' without domestic help, it's a nightmare. I am sure, I can't do this activity for not max 1 week, my boss will put all his ire on me due to irregular in delivering work, re-scheduling meetings/appointments, travelling postponements. It's not possible. On the second thought, possibly in earlier days Moms used to have more than one child and that allowed them to engage within a home children circle, and get time to close up activities. But, with protected, nucleus family, not allowing too much physical activity to the kids, we are really spoiling. Wether you are with wife/ or bina wife. It doesn't matter, as long as you are not taking the right steps to get physical immunity to your child at this stage. That's what I am scared about and the episode surfaced due to this. i am scared of my kid's immunity and hence not allowed to travel to hometown and in-turn personally invite "Wife bina Life". Kaas I would have informed Star Plus to induct me, at-least I could have raised some mullah out of it....
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